I will write this article from my point
of view and most of it, although can be applied to any D/s
relationship, this article is mainly about me and my fascination with
the D/s fetish. I will refer to the submissive as female and the
dominant partner will be male
D/s relationship is like any other,
it's give and take. A dominant male is not dominant if the submissive
female is not willing to submit. In a way, the sub or female has more
power since she controls the limits of the domination the male can
have. A real Dom will know that a D/s relationship is based on the
sub consent and on that note I characterize any D/s relationship as a
power exchange relationship based on mutual consent. The key to any
D/s relationship is “mutual consent”. Mutual consent forms the
basis of any D/s relationship; without it you get idiots thinking a
Sub must do everything a Dom asks for.
I just recently got introduced BDSM to
my D/s experience and with it I introduced the element of pain and
humiliation. Now, I am not foreign to the art of humiliation but the
pain is new for me. Pain can be pleasurable and anyone not familiar
with BDSM may not understand how that can be, but it can be when done
with consent and moderation without exceeding ones limits.
Despite what Doms/Masters preach about
helping pushing ones limits, I disagree and truly believe that limits
must not be pushed! If the sub enjoys her activity and wishes to
further her exploration then it will come from the sub and limits
will be pushed on their own without any help/encouragements from Doms
or Masters.
When I introduced BDSM into my D/s
experience I learned that little pain is a positive and pleasurable
thing to have in my experience. Just like any other regular (vanilla)
relationship, there is no right or wrong way to do things as long as
its consensual, happy, and safe!
From the sub viewpoint or more
precisely my view point, a Dom-Master can bring balance, security,
piece of mind and calmness to the Sub's life. This enables the sub to
control her emotions and be happy, accepting and content
One thing to note is that being a Sub
is not the same to being a slave. A sub will have hard and soft
limits and they must be respected. Soft limits that can be flexible
and hard limits that are an absolute NO! As a Dom-Master you must not
bark orders without considering these limits.
The key to a successful D/s
relationship is finding a partner with similar and close enough
interests. If one has more extreme interests than the other, the
relationship will be doomed to failure since the extreme partner will
always be pushing the limits of the other; this will compromise the
hard/soft limits I talked about earlier
I hope this article will shed light on
my experience of D/s relationship. I will answer some of the
questions I get about my sexual limits and likes. I like dirty sex,
to be roughed up and I love pain as long as no blood, physical marks
or bruising involved; but being sore the next day from rough
sex is pleasurable! I love deep-throat and gagging with tears and
runny makeup, I like anal and my fave position is face down ass up doggy-style ;)
My hard limits will include (but not
limited to) scat or poop, to me that's disgusting!!! also barfing, blood
play, tampon/period play (gross for me), licking toilets, floors or shoes
(big YUK!) and anything gross or dirty especially men with poor
hygiene (ewww and a big YUK!)
Lastly, I keep getting asked about the
tattoo on my ass and I've must answered this question on every blog
and people still ask me (really Kissra, that's what it means?)...YES
it means slut/whore or bitch...now U know ^_^
For Masters/Doms, read this article as I share my experience about Masters and Doms
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